3 Steps to Create Balance in your life as a Mom

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As a mom of 3 I know how hard it is to keep balance in your life!

Between housework, work, raising children & being a supportive wife, where does a mom find the time to learn something new, revive old hobbies, listen to an intellectually stimulating podcast, take a short course on something that interests you, read a good book / the Bible, go on a date with your spouse… the list is endless – there are so many areas & things we don’t make time for, and one day you wake up and see the massive imbalances in your life, and go WOAH!

Life 1, Mom 0.

So how do you go about making the scales even? How do you, Mom with no time EVER, rearrange things so that you are a more interesting, calm, social, spiritual, {insert desired quality here} person? Here are some thoughts. I am, by no means, a balance expert {wouldn’t ‘balanced mom’ be an oxymoron?! hahaha} Like I said, I have 3 young children and am … imbalanced & learning 🙂

HOW TO CREATE BALANCE IN YOUR LIFE AS A MOM:

1. Write a list of areas you’d like to prioritize more

Knowing what frustrates you and where you’d like to improve, and writing it down, is a huge step towards making a positive change in your life and daily schedule. Areas you may need help finding balance in:

SPIRITUAL – take time out to read the Bible, pray and get peace and direction. A day | hope | mood – changer.

MARRIAGE – take time out to discuss how much time per day/ week you and your spouse would like, to make your marriage stronger. It is the #1 relationship in your life… prioritize it!

FRIENDSHIPS – take time out each week to call /visit your besties. Life happens {usually in a fast blur that pauses every few weeks, where you realise you don’t have a social life} so be sure to make time for the relationships in your life that count. Keep them alive!

INTELLECTUAL – take time out to do something that stimulates you mentally. Start a course on one of the many online schools/varsities that offer free classes. Listen to interesting podcasts. Slip in 5 minutes here and there on a good book. Start a hobby, or attend a workshop every few weeks/months.

Keep your brain alive! If you want to be as witty as Donna in Suits, your mind will need a break from teaching phonics or doing dishes for the third time today.

PERSONAL – before the busy blur that is having kids and being a home maker and wife {and career woman too, if you are one}, what did you have in your heart to DO and BE? An artist? A professional..? A children’s books author? A guitar player? Take the time out to remember these things and write them down.

2. Diarize time for each area area in your calendar(s), and break it down into specific activities/to do items.

Knowing you’d like a date once a week is great; actually booking the babysitter and diarizing it in your and your hubby’s diaries for Friday 6pm sharp is a good step to ensuring it actually gets DONE and isn’t overwritten with sudden things, like a night out at inlaws or random work at home.

3. Ask for help

Sometimes we have far more support available to us than we realise. Don’t be shy or ashamed to ask for help if you need it – a ten minute breather before kids’ bedtime to compose yourself after a long day; an hour a week off to have a long bath alone with a bottle glass of wine; an afternoon off every second week to meet with a girlfriend or attend a workshop/class.

Balance is a tricky thing – it never happens naturally! All things unscheduled tend toward chaos. So grab a notepad, hide in the bathroom away from the kids for a minute, and plan what & how you’d like your life to change!

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